Lending them your calm

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A toddler needs your help to start learning self-control — they understand "no" long before they can act on it, and the gap between the two is not defiance. In that gap the control has to come from outside, and staying steady is the whole of what you can lend.

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🛡️ This is not a technique for stopping a tantrum, and treating it as one turns it into a method that fails. If they are in danger, move them first and be calm second — safety does not wait for regulation.

Source: ZeroToThreeFrom Baby to Big Kid: Month 18

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Lending them your calm

Get down to their level first

Before any words. Standing over a small person in a big feeling adds to it.